There's a difference in being an arrogant asshole and being a strong confident person.
Y'all need to learn the difference.
Take time to reflect on the person you are and how you might need to change to show others the person you want to be.
Go search for those smarter, better, more experienced than yourself to guide you. These people will be able to show you your true self better than you think.
Listen to others. Their experiences count for something, for a lot of things. You can't do this on your own.